I have high blood pressure because of her. I live with her in college and my exams have not been going well. Hey i am in a LDR and i need your help my gf is also depressed, she doesnt tell the stuff she is going through, yea she tells me most of the things but not that. She just takes things to seriously when i try to joke around with her which i really can see that she has a real problem to begin with. Her issues didnt matter to me as she is a very good person, but I didnt see the whole picture. (You're so tired) But you just can't sleep. There is this main problem with communication between boys and girls we think a little bit differently and act too. I hear your talking and whispers, pale drawn out nails and fingers. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. (All is Hell) I'm just not the same. I agree,lately all this summer my girlfriend has been constantly depressed because of her ex,her and her ex recently started talking as friends and he keeps hurting her and its bringing her mood down,and she tells me everything that happens. Its been 8 months and Im already afraid of how she might self destruct if I tried to end the relationship. Wow. Warm regards, Break up. The best I could do for him was to let him go and wished him happy. but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. But i just seem lost and i need answers, idk if i was harsh and Im totally new at this so Im sorry if i was being harsh and all but plz help. If you have depression or anxiety its because you know deep in your soul that you arent on the right path or living up to your potential. We've been together for about a year now. She has now admitted to me that she has battled with depression since she was a teenager (she is 26). And also I realised that people dont like sad people. 10 Things That Happen If Your Relationship Is Draining Your Energy 1. I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. Most of her adult life was spent trying to stabilize from bipolarity. Hey, lately iv been feeling more and more distant from my gf. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. Talk, really talk openly without any criticism. We do talk through alot of things and have a somewhat open dialogue, but I still feel resentful and angry when i feel shes not there for me, something i dont seem to get over, despite wanting to. She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. If you need help finding a therapist, you are welcome to call us. Like everything was depending on something else, like it was fragile structure. Dealing with a depressed girl isnt easy and there some moments of greatness and when it happens I take full advantage of it. Ching, I thank the universe for you, and you for your response. Our arguments are born out of nothing, she wants me to do as she wishes and doesnt believe in personal space, family commitments, having ambitions and achievoing dreams. I love her a lot, I just miss her old caring cuddly self! Send a package with love letters or get some flowers delivered to her house. girlfriend is dragging me down I feel that my girlfriend is dragging me down and although she's happy in the relationship I'm not. I try not to put pressure on her to be a certain way or accomplish a certain thing in a given day, but when the time comes when there is actually a really important thing she needs to do, and shes not able to do it, i feel i end up hurting her and not helping. Seeing the change in her every day life and general well-being has been nothing short of a complete shock to me. In your head, you know it's no big deal. Can still manage to go to pool every Tuesday night til 2am. Most of you experienced it yourselves unless you are blessed with incredible good looks or a family wealth. Depression is a serious issue that is very difficult to understand. This is the person who wants what you have - your charm, your wit, your success, your intelligence, your job, your partner, whatever - and because they don't think they . I thought she was the woman of my life, that I would do anything for her and I would but she simply doesnt want. Theres a lot of pain in watching someone else you love give up on their own life, be unhappy about decisions they made and wonder why the relationship is falling apart when theyve manipulated your emotions by hurting u, breaking up with you so many times and not having anything positive to say on any problem you or they have,together or singularly. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. After everything I did, I have been there every single day, sharing my life with her, and pushing her away from this disease. To see a list of mental health professionals practicing in your area, simply enter your ZIP code here: Nowadays, going to Youtube to watch movies and listen to music and entertainment is a daily necessity. Hell even the break up process reinforces their behavior. He would only talk and see me when he had nothing else to do but I was okay with that I was inlove with him. (Not married) Having your sh$t together isnt exactly essential for survival anymore. THIS MORNING WITH ALL YOUR WEIGHT TIED TO MY NECK AND YOUR DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN I GOT . So he . I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. When that happens, it may be time for some serious reflection. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. I have thought about leaving, but I'm afraid it would devastate her, and I truthfully don't know that she would survive it. hello, I am this depressed girl, She shut me off completely and gave me halfhearted reply whenever I talk to her. It bothers me a lot and Ive done all I could to understand. If she did you would know. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. It may be subtle behaviors such as never showing an interest in you or socializing with your friends, or it could be outright insults that damage your sense of self-worth. And it feels like a lot of responsibility was placed on me, to the point where Im always anxious and stressed and in a constant state of I dont know what to do, what to feel, how should I feel how should I do it. So you see, these emotions are complicated, you have trace them few steps back to understand what is really going on. I cant leave her though because she said she wouldnt be able to live if i left her. After a year of being together i started to talk about how bad our sexlife and that it has changed, her reply was always that im comparing this to things i read on the internet and that what we had before is considered honeymoon period. I came over this weekend, she didnt seem to be too excited, she made me dinner but kept glancing at her phone, this hurt because she made less effort to communicate with me get she was on her phone more than usual. somewhere inside you still know that too, its a natural instinct. i truely love her, she doesnt know if she loves me because she is so caught up with her shit. Drag Me Down Lyrics [Verse 1: Harry] I've got fire for a heart, I'm not scared of the dark You've never seen it look so easy I got a river for a soul, and, baby, you're a boat Baby, you're my. A woman goes through a break up, she goes out, cries half the time and gets her drinks paid for all night and has her choice of a half a dozen guys fighting over her. Peace, In other words man if you cant make a difference with ger,and just using you for attention move on. I agreed but this has left me with nothing to do, leaving my friends was a massive mistake! Anyway, now we are almosr 3 yrs together and from the start of this year she finally admited being alcoholic and she started treatment process, with medications and therapy. It's not fun for either party, and it's definitely a sign that things aren't entirely healthy. Ive never been so stressed and sad and angry my whole life. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. When the relationship isn't secure, however, you might feel this nagging sense of jealousy towards everything and everyone. Day in or out, shell leave me broken again, I know it, just dont know when. Understand that put-downs are a reflection of the other person's insecurity and get support from trusted confidantes. Please know there is hope, and help is available. She still will randomly text me I love you! The odd time but the girl I felt secure with seems to have left her conscience. Its killing me inside as she looks so helpless, vulnerable, alone and she has the face of one of the most beautiful girls you would ever meet. Should I just except it and appreciate the five minutes we talk a day? Dear M, If you would like to find a mental health professional for your girlfriend, you can start finding therapists in your area by entering your city or ZIP code into the search field on this page: https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. It is sad, my girlfriend has depression and hates to go out. Lately, Ive been becoming stronger, Ive finished my graduation, am starting to work by myself. I forgave her and forgot all of that. Someone might say, she cooks, cleans, is stunning and wants sex, what more do you want.. I am not sure if Im still with her for love, for the codependency that has definitely developed or simply because I have been doing this so long I dont know any different, I have almost the exact same problem. Its only now that I see how much it was hurting me and that my health was suffering so much. Tell her its either you or the ex, no friendships either. First, if you are ever in crisis or are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else, it is very important you seek help immediately. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. It is your life too. I like my lectures because I feel like I have room to breathe since there is no internet connection in the lecture theaters. But how is it possible? The fact that shes still hanging around him enforces that theyve cheated. Shes struggled to be present at her job, and isnt able to meet deadlines or pass things in on time. My advice to anyone going through this with a depressed person is just call it off and move on. So its what you make of it. Exactly. My suggestion is start having a quality of life before it is to late , love is wonderful when it is growing but it can be hell if it is one sided. Girls love that kind of crap and its not gay or anything if you do something where you express your feelings. It pisses me off. Im in a similar situation & it is making me crumble emotionally. I tried to break up with her but,she couldnt let me ago, how cant she,shes been saying were drifting apart were nothing you dont care about me just stop it.and now shes depressed,or think she is, and Im the one getting all the thoughts all the sadness. It Feels Like They Always Ask Too Much. i dont know what to do. Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . Next time you feel like this world is messed, go outside and try something new. Ive been with my girl for over 4 months now, but we have been good friends for more than 7 years. Things we fine for few months then i noticed our sex life taking the down hill road. She is very complexed about her weight, her mental issues and the time she has lost in her life. Now I am devastated, saddened and hurt by the fact my beautiful girlfriend (now ex) is so unwell and theres nothing that I can really do, except offer my support and love. Can anyone help me and tell me what can i do?. When asked I would avoid the answer because I really didnt know, and when forced, probably I would put the blame on someone else or act with aggression. I fought with my boyfriend just to feel close to him for a while, to be able to talk. ), it can really start to drag you down. she is unhappy with dating. She wont go to counselling nor will she take medication, she hurts herself knowing that it hurts me because it means iv failed once again to make her happy. Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. Hi Greg, So what am I to her now?? 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