Wow, sorry to hear that ANOTHER person put their dog above their human companion. And yes my partner is obsessed with his dog, what he eats, he cant havw treats, B12 and other injections have to be given to him, other medications, etc. I received pictures every week and I can see by her sleeping posture that she is both happy and comfortable. Not a fair fight to be sure but if they have those avoidance issues, then you know that this could be a possibility/ /, I think it can also be a huge red flag for control issues. Im glad to see Im not the only one with these issues and have spent better of an hour reading the comments. Long story short, it was an extremely stressful weekend, having to watch the little dog around my girlfriends dog 24/7, leash inside the house, etc. Challenging for sure when polar opposites. I cannot tolerate it. Yes he takes him outside some. They did not ask for a dog only compensate because they love you and you have one. But after expressing my feelings towards my partner and them being disregarded, I mostly dont want the dog on the bed because my feelings were tossed to the side. Its sooo disturbing! For the past 4 months has hasnt said anything anymore thankfully so I hope he is finally getting over it. Because she looks sad. You are being neglected and neglect is a form of abuse. Mainly because I decided to focus on my relationship instead of a small dog problems even if it could be seen as a big one I finally decided not to let it but just let the dog into my heart more each and everyday. What they dont understand is that dogs would do this to another dog: its not love at least not in the human sense its just animal instinct with imaginary human characteristics being bolted on. How ridiculous for a person to not like a certain dog. Ive been almost a year now without a pet and I feel so sad. Its treated better than me. Fun fact: My ex has never met my wolf / husky hybrid (who I nursed from a pup because the breeder was going to drown her when she was born) yet when he attempted to lure her away with a piece of juicy elk steak (which he had learned from me prior our breakup was her favorite) She bared her teeth and chased him away and didnt even TOUCH the steak (was never poisoned or anything) Yet my family verbally berated me for giving up on a relationship with a seemingly great man (He had them all fooled.) "They are hesitant to commit to future events or activities, so they make up excuses in order to . As far as the relationship I dont like to say it but maybe its best if you did separate, though it hurts to think that way. I cannot sleep with my bf, or watch tv with him (both dogs get on the couch between us if there is any affection), cannot have a meal without incessant begging, cannot travel or have fun day-trips out of town because he wont leave the dogs. Just read more comments. I am at my wits end. There are deep underlying issues for this type of thinking! This is the exact way I feel. In fact, thats how we ended up getting together. She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. They lick him all over the face and its just nasty!! I was a woman, just remarried, deeply hurt by my husband whom treated his female Labrador with more value, more affection, more it seemed, everything than he did his new bride. If he shouts at a little dog because he is an insecure man , he will probably do the same to his wife or potential children. So heres my story. Which she refuses. The house smells like ammonia and I cant be in that environment, my throat starts to hurt and its just disgusting. They wanted the cat back that I wound up having to give to my would be mother in law BC it was just dandy we couldnt have a cat but god forbid we found a place that wouldnt let him keep his dog. We have a Great Dane 2 year old with no issues. Your boyfriends are showing absuive behavior towards the pets. Most arguments over pets come from the primary owner making excuses for them. So sorry for what you going through. And when my dog nips the other dog to warn it off from the kitchen (my dog knows they are not allowed to scavenge for food in the kitchen), guess who gets punished? What?!?! I feel that that there is still a choice to be made about the dogs, they still live at the place that is there home, he has only visited them 3 times in the past year and we are going to set up our own place with our own furniture and our own life. You have to be prepared though. Big dogs are messy and hairy and require even more care and exercise, but there are good dog hair vacuums and grooming helps a lot too. I dont understand alot of things about this situation. Jennifer: But, they can pay for them, care for them, take them to the vet, pick up their poo, bathe them, get up at the butt crack of dawn to let them out, this and that. Different breeds were actually bred for different reasons, and its funny because hardly any pet owner actually harnesses that energy and trains their dog what they are bred to do, especially terrier or bully breeds. I could never get used to those gross drooly dogs but tried a relationship with a dog but it just doesnt work. If he took the time to seek a trainer, and learn how to maintain a dog, i would support him. I spent the first two months cleaning her hair out of everything. Youll all be much happier. Most of the dogs in the class were BAD but at the end of the 6 weeks, all the families who did their homework showed significant improvement, and it was inspirational to see the frustration start to melt away on peoples faces (mine included). Thank you. Its so depressing to me this is not what I want in my life, or in my relationship. He eats my dogs food all the time. You need to either leave the boyfriend, or give the dog to a family or owner who will care for the dog and not mistreat it. I consider giving them up {Ive had the pigs for over a year}, ignoring the nasty comments, or moving {but not sure I can afford another house and this home is 50% mine and Ive put money into it. } Is asking him to find him the dog a new home too much? Of course, an animal cannot hurt you emotionally. I dont care. Why was your ex not a good man as youve implied? New life. I know we need to work on the dogs training, but I feel like it might be easier if my husband liked the dog enough to help share the responsibility of training so that we could tackle it together. One of the reasons we got her was because she was supposedly good with cats. i cant seem to find any (or very little) help for the person who does not own the pet. Sometimes there is poop everywhere! I DISAGREE.. why would you allow your pet to ruin expensive stuff that did not belong to you and pee everywhere? For reference, my garden is my sanctuary and my one place I can go to relax. Suppose the dog bites your child got drew pretty much a considerable amount of blood and the child is afraid of canines, now the husband/boyfriend is correct beyond any doubt. If youre the pet lover, ask your partner specifically what the issue is and what would fix it. ?When I see this I automatically assume the person /owner has mental health issues or is intellectually challenged. If I have to choose between my spouse and the dogthe dog loses all day everyday! Cannot grasp the concept of an animal being put before a human !!!! Its fantasy to think otherwise. Now you want to change that and add another? Humans cannot birth dogs. I think its a matter of choice. I HATE the way he treats my poor dog. We got into a horrible fight recently over it, he agreed to see if giving his dog anxiety medication would help. They didnt sleep in bed with us, were not allowed on the couch, and did not beg and whine for food. The dogs get more hugs and attention and conversation than I do. she was not socialized properly or disciplined properly. We put it just outside the dog for so she can go outside to potty but come inside to sleep but only could reach a certain distance into the house and not have free roam. Say your dog is kind of aggressive toward other dogs or any other outside small creatures. Things worked ok for a while my wife complained about grass in the house so I invested in artificial grass to solve the problem. if the puppy pees I get yelled at. Anyways, we have had him for 2 weeks, and my Husband and I have done nothing but FIGHT. Has anyone else had these types of issues from dogs? Weve even tried fixing it but he chews through everything we try to fix it with. Ive read about this more and more myself realizing that its a real problem with some people that just cant distinguish their four legged animal from a human being. I am going thru the same thing as many of you. It was a horrific story about having chased and clubbed a possum to death and set it on fire afterwards while on an exchange period in the US when he was 19, saying that it resulted from peer pressure from the racist and homophobic guys he was hanging around with at that point. When youre old, your spouse will be there by your side taking care of you. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and I absolutely 100% do not like his dog. Find my story that I posted awhile back. It does not mean your partner has to help to, itd your pet so dont give them that responsibility because its not theirs. FYI, we are planning on living in an apartment :( Its just very stressful and need some advice I have been thinking about training, but i dont want that in our new house, because that will be pissed and ruined as soon as they are there, and I just want a clean house and not the additional stress of dogs around me. This dog is very affectionate with everybody, including kids, other dogs, cats, he doesnt even chase squirrels. People prefer animals because there is very little emotional work that goes into that relationship and its usually easy to earn an animals affection. Now that everything is settled I noticed he was loving the dog more as well. Dogs are supposed to bring pleasure; these four-legged gods bring fights, stress, and anxiety. How did an animal lover end up with an animal hater? Not. this is what dogs do they bark and protect you. Puzzle toys. Its been a battle since that day 4 years ago. The dog is old and likely wont live another year. He said that it had been almost a year since he was able to really be affectionate towards his wife. He wants him to be an outside dog when we get a house but I cant stand the idea. In my opinion you only making it worse and making him think he is the alpha male as he gets his way. Their minds arent wired that way! At this point, a year and a half later, Im tired of hearing the same complaints day after day. Since he never had kids, he says that his dog is the kid he never had. Some people regard these dogs over their human companion which I think is absolutely disgusting. But hes so insistent on making him an outside dog. Today had an argument with my husband about his dog. We couldnt crate her at night because shed crap all over herself. She doesnt have time to train even after we each went to classes on how to train it. 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